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Explained

Why photographs of you look the way they do

The optics and the psychology behind hating your own pictures.

Almost nobody likes photographs of themselves, and almost none of the reasons are about how they look. These pieces explain what is actually happening — mirror reversal, lens distance, frozen expressions — and what changes it.

Why do I look bad in photos but good in the mirror?

Because the mirror shows you a flipped, moving, three-dimensional face lit by whatever is around you, and a ph…

Mirror vs camera: which one is the real you?

The camera is closer to what other people see, because it does not reverse you. The mirror is closer to your t…

Why do I hate photos of myself?

Partly because a photograph shows an unfamiliar, unflipped version of your face, and partly because you judge …

Why do I look fatter in photos than in real life?

A camera flattens three dimensions into two, which removes the depth that separates your body from the backgro…

Front camera vs back camera: why you look different in each

The front camera is a short, wide lens held about forty centimetres from your face; the back camera is a bette…

How to be photogenic (it is learnable, not innate)

Being photogenic is four learnable things: standing at the right distance from the lens, turning slightly away…

The best angles for photos, and why they work

Camera slightly above eye level, subject turned thirty to forty-five degrees away with the face returning to t…

Posing tips for women that are not just 'hand on hip'

Weight on the back foot, front knee soft, shoulders angled and uneven, hands occupied, chin forward and down —…

How to pose for selfies without looking like a selfie

Hold the phone slightly above eye level and further away than feels natural, use the back camera with the time…

How to pose when you hate being photographed

Ask to be given instructions rather than told to relax, start with frames where you are not looking at the len…

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